The "responsible divorce" pledge
In the box below, there is the pledge we suggest you make as you go
through your separation and divorce.
It is written as “we” because, ideally, both you and your
ex would agree to it.
If your ex doesn’t, you can still see this pledge as a reminder
to do what you can to avoid contributing to the spiral of ever-growing
strife that characterizes the adversarial divorce.
We know that the kind of divorce where parents fight it
out to "win the divorce" has bitter, destructive results.
Children are deeply affected.
We acknowledge that, even as we break up, we still have
a very important common goal: taking good care of the children.
We view our divorce as a transition: from being part of
a couple, to leading separate lives. We pledge to make this
transition in a humane and responsible way, so that separating
does not jeopardize our common goal.
- printer-friendly pdf file
of this pledge
- the meaning of "responsible divorce"
(including different opinions about it)
Proactive mindfulness in everyday life